It’s tough to move and be happy after a break up
How long can you live a life sulking about your past and draining all your energy? You need to learn how to move on and be happy.
Yes, holding on might seem like the bravest thing to do but moving on and choosing your happiness is the toughest decision you can take for yourself.
You only need to know when to stop looking back, let go, and grow out of the shell and fly high.
You may want to hold on to things because at some point of time they felt like the right choices for you. But things constantly change and that is the law of the universe.
What worked out yesterday may not work for you today and you must let them go!
Sometimes latching on to the past may fill your minds with hatred, anger, pain, loneliness, disgust, and survival may become tough for you.
You need to get back your positivity and find your true self and learn that whatever happened in the past isn’t your fault. It’s time to move on and be happy with what you have now.
It will be difficult to walk on this path but once you start discovering yourself and learn who you are, you’ll know you deserve the best.
Once you walk out of the dark space and choose brightness, you’ll see life is all about the good little things. 😊
So, no matter what it is, your job, a broken friendship or relationship that asks you to hang in for some more time, say no and choose your happiness.
This may look like a daunting process to you at first.
It is indeed tough, requires a lot of courage and faith in oneself but there are some ways in which you can easily get started on how to move on and be happy in your life.
Let me tell you the ways of how to move on and be happy in life
Letting go and taking a step forward for yourself takes more strength than you think. It isn’t easy. But once you’ve decided you’re getting on the ride, there is no looking back.
And I am here to help you with some useful ways that help in healing oneself. I have used them in my personal life and have immensely benefited from them.
1. Accept what happened in the past.
let go of the emotional baggage you carry, and give yourself time to grieve. Be grateful for the good times.
If something slips away from your life, you need to accept it did not come into your life with ‘forever’ written on it.
It wasn’t meant to be yours. You deserve something better, something that will bring out your best. The day you realize this, you choose life and happiness over pain and anger.
But that doesn’t mean you mustn’t acknowledge the good memories of your past life. After all, they are what once made you smile, laugh, cry, learn new things about yourself, and grow as a person.
Cherishing them and being thankful for all the good times will open new doors for self-discovery.
Also, give yourself all the time you need to grieve over what you are leaving behind. But soon you must also learn how to move on and be happy.
If you want to cry, just let it all out. Don’t let the emotions flood inside.
Let them flow like a river until you clearly see what’s ahead of you. Because it’s okay to cry and let your feelings out before you can move on.
2. Take some time off, relax, explore new things.
And distance yourself from people who you left behind.
At times, taking a break, unplugging your mind from the mess feels refreshing and prepares you for what’s ahead.
Once you start exploring new things, you will realize the person that you are and get a vivid picture of who you want to be.
You will learn to move on and be happy, look at things in a new perspective, a happy and optimistic one at that, and you will notice how the people around you change the way they say you too.
The most important thing of getting ahead is not looking back at what hurt you. If it’s a relationship or a broken friendship, phase the people who’ve been mean to you out of your life.
They are not meant to walk with you until the end and you gotta leave them behind and be okay with it.
It will be tough to move on and be happy after a break up initially but start by reducing contact with them and gradually, they’ll blur out like they didn’t even exist.
3. Take your life into your own hands and be your own boss.
Control your life the way you want.
If you want your life to change, the only person who can help you do that is you. No one except you can take the responsibility of steering your life in the direction you want.
Neither your parents, your friends, your teachers, nor your mentors.. no one can bring the happiness or positivity into your life you seek unless you take full control of it. You gotta be your own boss!
You are the one who needs to learn how to move on and be happy if that’s the last thing you do. You owe that to yourself.
People you love can be the driving force towards a healthy life but ultimately, only you can motivate yourself to move on.
Don’t pressurize yourself but take baby steps and move ahead by the day. You’ll seek your happiness one day.
4. Spend time with your friends and share your feelings with them.
They say no matter what and how much pain you have hidden inside you, it becomes easy to deal with them once you share it with your friends and the ones you love. It’s true!
Best friends are people who listen to you, support you, understand you, feel what you go through, and their undying love for you makes everything so easy.
If you want to heal yourself, spend as much time as you want with the friends who have your back at all times.
They will provide you the strength and energy you need to pull yourself through all the gloomy situations.
With their aid you’ll learn how to move on and be happy in a fairly shorter amount of time than by yourself.
Even when you want a shoulder to just lean on, they will be there for you. Friends are the wheels which can get your vehicle treading forward.
5. Forgive the person you ended your relationship with and yourself too.
Moving on doesn’t only mean leaving behind what happened, it also means taking off the load on your chest as well.
You cannot walk into the future hoping for bright days with a dark soul full of bitterness, anger and disgust, can you?
So, you need to forgive the person who wronged you. To do so, you need to forgive yourself first.
Doing so, you will say goodbye to all the latches you were hanging yourself onto and finally find some mental and emotional peace.
Take the baggage off and see how light and positive you will feel. This is the most important part of moving on and be happy.
6. Self-love needs to be your first priority now.
Spend time doing things that interest you and take full care of yourself.
You’ve made mistakes in the past, probably because you were emotionally too invested in other people. But moving on requires you to focus on yourself.
Take time to make changes in your life and love yourself first. You don’t know, but loving oneself, is the most difficult. But you gotta do it.
Little things like learning about your boundaries, working on your self-respect, motivating yourself to do better, improving your self-confidence, will gradually show you who you are.
That is how you move on and be happy after everything. It will be tough to motivate yourself and get back on your feet. But always remember, you are your own hero.
And that you deserve all the love in the world but first, yours. Be your own favourite before you go out there in the world.
Not just that, indulge in your favourite activities and explore your inner self and do more of all that you love.
If you love reading, buy more books, love painting, stack your shelves with colours and paint more often, love photography, go clicking pictures; no matter what is, always do things that you love.
You are important. You matter. What you love, what excites you and makes you happy must be your priority.
7. Connect with new people.
The world is a huge place filled with people just like you. Go out, meet and greet new people, make new friends, and see how the stories shape up with everyone out there.
Sometimes meeting new people feels like a challenge because it’s actually a challenge. We are feeling down & we don’t wish to meet anyone at that moment.
Because human nature is quite weird. It doesn’t accept others happiness when we ourselves are drowning in sadness.
So, meeting new people who are having the best time of their lives may not be a good option and it will not help you to move on and be happy.
But instead meeting new people who are less fortunate could help you.
You are going to feel different. It’s not happiness, it’s not sadness or gratefulness towards God either.
It’s just a mix of feelings that lets you know that things aren’t all bad for you. That’s the moment when you start focusing on something more valuable than the feelings currently shattering your inner-self.
Don’t sit there and think your life’s put a stop sign before you. Get up and get going. Hang out, travel, go on adventures, get to know more people and see where your life takes you.
8. Let your mind be in the present. Don’t be afraid to take the challenges it puts before you.
Do not let your mind linger around your past or be excited about what’s in store for you in the future.
Live in the moment, cherish the present day you are living in and take decisions that are for your betterment.
Don’t hesitate from the uncertainty of tomorrow because once you move on, you will get stronger by the day and you’ll be ready to face come what may.
So, don’t hang in there for the sake of it. If something’s getting toxic, move on and let it go. Show life you are braver and tougher than it thinks. Be happy! 😊
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